Everybody has pain in their life. It's a fact of life. Some of us go through wayyy more pain than others, but just because someone's pain might be "worse" than anothers, it doesn't mean that the other pain is insignificant. The situation could always be worse, but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt when you are going through it. My husband is away for a month for work. It's sucks. I miss him terribly. But it could be worse, he could be away for 3months, 6months, 3 years. My sister's husband works 24hr shifts, so he is away for a couple nights a week. They have only been married over a month. It still hurts. I have friends who can't have children on their own, and going through embryo adoption processes, and have not had success so far. It hurts. I have friends who have one child and would love to have more. It hurts.
I had been thinking about this as people have been telling me "atleast James isn't gone overseas fighting". Yes, it is good and I'm grateful. It doesn't mean it's not hard having him gone at all.
I think with everyone, and hopefully I haven't offended anyone, that we are all grateful for what we do have, for the family, for the friends, for having food and shelter, etc etc, but the trials we go through still affect us. The key is to treasure the good things, cry through the bad things, and not to lose hope. People tell you "it could be worse" as a way to try to be positive. Don't get me wrong, it's a good thing. But when people tell you that, say yes it could, I'm thankful it isn't, I'm hurting in this moment, but I know I'll make it through.
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yes sometimes things can be worse but it doesn't help to hear that in the situation to some people. What matters is what you say, that it hurts for THAT PERSON. That that person is aching in a way that only they can truly feel and understand.
ReplyDeletePeople that have gone through the same sort of hurt get the gift of being able to help others through their pain to some extent. For, to a small extent, they can understand that the ache is there. If that makes sense.
your post really tugs at me. A hurt is a hurt no matter how small or insignificant to others, it is BIG in that person's world. God understands that hurt.....